Death & Transformation

Join Alex Ioannou for a ceremony in which you connect with your ancestors to receive their blessing and support. Alex brings his knowledge and embodied understanding of ancestral work and how it can liberates and empowers us.

Meeting the Medicine Women of Transformation
Faye Sylvia Gould
Inner Sanctum
Gaia Harvey Jackson
The Lindworm
Read by Martin Shaw (see below for more about the folktale)

For our gathering on Tuesday, 19th November, Marie will be guiding us through an introductory session on the art of using tarot. Whether you’re completely new to tarot or looking to deepen your understanding, Marie’s teaching will offer a gentle yet enriching introduction.

Death and Transformation

Time of the Day - Sun Below Horizon
Time of Year - Samhain
Human life cycle - Becoming Elder
Stage in Menstruation - Luteal Phase
Plant Life - Returning to Earth
Attributes of Connection - Full Aliveness

Death and transformation are part of life’s natural cycles, seen in nature, in our bodies, and even in the turning of day into night. At dusk, when the sun sinks below the horizon, we experience a daily ending—a gentle reminder that darkness and endings are essential to the rhythm of life. During Samhain, the end of the harvest, we remember those who have passed and honour the cycles of death and rebirth, recognising that death isn’t an ending but a return to the source, preparing for new growth. As we grow older, we let go of youthful illusions, embracing the wisdom that comes from life’s transitions.

In our bodies, this cycle is echoed in the luteal phase, just before menstruation, when energy turns inward, asking us to release and prepare for what comes next. Plants, too, retreat to their roots, enriching the earth for future growth. This part of the cycle is about connection and “full aliveness,” where we’re fully present with life’s joys and losses. Through these cycles, we learn that transformation requires endings, shedding layers to return to our true essence and make way for new beginnings.

The Lindworm

The Lindworm
Read by Martin Shaw

Death & Transformation Ritual

What You’ll Need:

A small candle (black, white, or deep red if possible)

A piece of paper and a pen

A bowl of water or a small dish of soil (symbolising earth’s cycle of death and rebirth)

A photo or memento of an ancestor (optional)

A small object that represents something you’re ready to release (such as a stone, feather, or leaf)

Preparation & Grounding

Find a quiet, comfortable space where you won’t be disturbed. Arrange your items before you, with the candle at the centre. Stand or sit quietly, taking a few deep breaths. Let your feet sink into the ground, feeling the earth’s support beneath you. Begin to sway gently, shifting your weight from foot to foot, feeling yourself becoming more grounded, open, and ready for this moment of honouring.

Light your candle, watching the flame grow and feeling its warmth. Place your hands on your heart and, as you inhale, imagine that warmth filling your chest, radiating outward. Say softly, “I honour the cycles of life and death within me. I release what no longer serves me and open myself to transformation.” Let these words settle into your body, feeling each part of you relax and align with this intention.

The Steps

Engage with the Release Object
Take the item you’ve chosen to represent what you’re ready to let go of. Hold it in your hands, breathing deeply, and allow yourself to feel any tension or heaviness within you. Visualise this energy flowing down through your arms and filling the object with each exhale. Move your hands over the object as if transferring all that you’re releasing—allowing yourself to truly feel the weight of what’s being let go. When you’re ready, place it beside the bowl of water or soil, symbolising a return to the earth.

Connect with Your Ancestors Through Movement
Stand and close your eyes, beginning to sway gently. Visualise your ancestors gathering around you in a circle, their presence steady and kind. Picture them as guardians or guides, here to support you in your journey of transformation. Allow your body to move as you feel their energy—maybe a soft rocking, a subtle dance, or a slow, grounding rhythm. Place one hand on your heart and one on your belly, feeling their presence within, as if their wisdom and strength are rising up inside.

Write a Message to Your Ancestors
Sit down with your piece of paper and pen. Take a moment to connect with your breath and tune in to what you want to express. Write a message to your ancestors, perhaps thanking them for their presence and guidance, or asking for wisdom as you journey through your own cycles of change. Feel your hand moving across the paper, as though their energy flows through you, guiding your words. Place the note near the candle as a symbolic offering.

Embody Full Aliveness
Place your hands over your heart once more and stand or sit tall. Breathe deeply, feeling the expansion of your chest, the warmth of your hands, and the steadiness of your heartbeat. With each breath, visualise your body filling with light, your cells and muscles awakening, embracing the fullness of this moment. Stretch your arms or sway gently, embodying a sense of presence, aliveness, and acceptance of both life’s fullness and its cycles of release.

Release and Close the Ritual with Gratitude
Thank your ancestors and yourself for holding this space of honouring and transformation. Gently blow out the candle, watching the smoke rise as a symbol of release, sending your intentions into the universe.

Return the Release Object to Nature
When you’re ready, take the object you’ve infused with what you’re releasing outside, if possible, and find a place in nature to leave it. You may choose to bury it in the soil, place it by the roots of a tree, or let it go into a stream. As you release it, say a few words aloud, such as, “I return this to the earth, to be transformed and renewed.” Visualise what you’ve let go of being absorbed into the earth, where it can decompose and be recycled into new energy.

Reflect on the Experience

Take a few moments to close your eyes, bringing your hands to any area of your body that feels especially connected, like your heart or belly. Notice any changes in your energy, any sensations of lightness, warmth, or grounding. If it feels right, journal about the experience, noting any insights, feelings, or messages that came up. Move or sway as you write, embodying any final thoughts or emotions that arise.

This ritual honours death and transformation through both reflection and embodiment, grounding what you’re releasing back into the earth to continue its natural cycle. By connecting with your ancestors, you bring the past into your present, allowing each release to make space for new growth.

Notice what thoughts, feelings, images and dreams come to you in the days after this ritual.  You could share the three words that came to you in The Women’s Fire WhatsApp and a bit about your experience. You can also check the members homepage for further resources to support you.